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Five Habits of Deeply Contented People (Simeon Human)

On the last Saturday in June around twenty of us had the opportunity to meet on Zoom. It was good to see familiar faces of our church family. Those still in and around Maidenhead but also our friends currently living further away, ranging from 15 to 1500 miles! Our subject: the five habits of deeply contented people, plus one extra secret habit. Our guest speaker Callom Harkrader, referred to principles written in Andrew Page’s book (resource 1 below) but based our discussion on Genesis 2.

The habits that enable us to experience a deeper level of contentment are:

1. Enjoy beauty: ‘The Lord God made trees that were pleasing to the eye’ Genesis 2:9.

2. Tend your garden: as Admiral McRaven said, ‘If you want to change the world, start off by making your bed’ (resource 2 below).

3. Practice self-control.

4. Be creative: and if you feel this isn’t possible, ask your close ones where they see your creativity, you might be surprised.

5. Embrace others: difficult to apply during lockdown, but see 3 John 1:13-14, ‘I have much to write you, but I do not want to do so with pen and ink. I hope to see you soon, and we will talk face to face.’

And last but not least:

6. Spend time with God: which can be as simple as training your spiritual discipline bit by bit. For example, it can help to tell others not just that you’re praying for them but what it is you’re praying for on their behalf.

We found that it can be difficult for us in our 20s and 30s to reach a sense of contentment. One factor that trends as a source of this difficulty is moving home more. We also identified some of the other things that can make it difficult to find contentment, including pornography, alcohol abuse, unexplained depression, the morning alarm, pulling out weeds only to find several more metaphorically and literally sprouting, and so on. It was encouraging to be able to speak up about the little details that pull us down. Especially during this lockdown era, an event like Saturday’s has helped us to at least survive relationally.

Some practical tips we shared in our breakout rooms and main room: when chores feel like they never end, try to pause briefly after finishing a task, and just enjoy that accomplishment for a moment. If you wonder if there is such a thing as too much contentment, consider complacency, and where you see yourself on that particular spectrum. In order to reduce the pain of that morning alarm, try expending yourself during the day so that you can fall asleep earlier and have a chance to wake up naturally.

Aside from hearing heartfelt musings, there was some light-hearted drama, including a game of wink assassin, and some play deaths on camera!

Thank you to our hosts, speaker and contributors for a worthwhile time together. Thank you, Jesus, for being there too.

Resources: 

1. Buy the 'Five habits of deeply contented people' book from Blackwells or Amazon

2. Watch Admiral McRaven 'If you want to change the world' youtube. And also on a second youtube clip.

Gospel Poverty (Will Stileman)

During my sabbatical earlier this year, I had the privilege of staying at George Whitefield College in Cape Town. During my time there I was able to meet a number of the faculty and students. I was hugely impressed by what I saw. There was a great ethnic mix amongst the students who came from all over sub-Saharan Africa. It was also a joy to witness faculty members leading a church in Khayelitsha, a large black township on the outskirts of Cape Town.

The strategic importance of this college, not only for South Africa, but the whole African continent was clear. George Whitefield College has a large vision and is having a significant impact.

This coming Friday at 7:30pm, I am hosting a webinar in which there will be a chance to hear first-hand from the Principal of the College Mark Dickson and his colleague Phumezo Masango about the challenges and opportunities that face Christians in Africa. The webinar is entitled “Crossing the gospel poverty line in Africa.” It will be interesting. There will be opportunity to ask questions and meet the staff in breakout groups. We expect that the webinar will last just over an hour.

Do join us on Zoom through this link.

Details will also be sent out on this week’s email update.

When Inner Strength Isn't Enough (John Furley)

When inner strength isn’t enough: lifting the lid on the real causes of anxiety.

The annual all-congregations men’s summer event, normally a barbecue, moved online for the first time this year. Ste Casey spoke on anxiety – a topical subject, as we are living in challenging times.

Ste described anxiety as the radio noise, the buzzing in the background, or a sense of dread that sometimes we can’t put our finger on or identify its source. Anxiety is the gap between the position in life that we think we have, compared to the position we put our high-achieving friends on.

And anxiety affects us all, at different times and in different ways. Ste asked us to think about what pressures and anxieties we face and what are the causes. Discussing in smaller groups showed a variety of causes – reassuringly mundane in many instances, but all having the ability to cause acute anxiety and all are genuine threats to those suffering at the time.

But in taking us to Matthew 6:25-34, Ste showed how the Bible is clear: ‘Do not worry’ about life, food, clothes or image. In looking at the passage Ste encouraged us, challenged us and reassured us that anxiety affects us all. The Bible’s King David, a superman of the Bible in many ways, suffered from anxiety and wrote about this in Psalm 62.

For us today, anxiety can reveal four things:

  • It reveals our reality – our uncertainties and threats, and our concerns about personal failure
  • It reveals our lives – our fear of missing out, or what we think we have to have
  • It reveals our faith – in what or whom do we trust to provide for our needs?
  • It reveals our Father – showing that he is present and active, his character giving us confidence when we lean on and trust in him

So, do we trust and turn to the Lord, or do we as Matthew 6:32-33 says act like the world instead of first seeking God’s kingdom?

A Vital Witness (Ian Miller)

In the midst of the Watergate scandal, one of President Nixon’s closest confidants, Charles Coulson went to visit a friend, Tom Phillips. Phillips was the president of New England’s biggest company. Coulson was struck by a change in Phillips and so he asked him, “You’ve changed, and I’d like to know what happened.” Phillips described how he had risen to his position by the age of forty by working night and day, but that something had been missing. There had been a big hole in his life and so he started to read the Bible to look for answers. As he did so, he began to realise that he needed a personal relationship with God. What Phillips did not know was that Coulson had been experiencing a similar feeling of emptiness but, as he describes in his autobiography, “…I had not sought spiritual answers. I had not even been aware that finding a personal relationship with God was possible.” Phillips went on to explain to Coulson how he had attended a Billy Graham meeting and how “what Graham said that night put it all in place for me… I asked Christ to come into my life and I could feel His presence with me, His peace within me. I could sense His Spirit there with me…” Coulson responded, “That’s what you mean by accepting Christ – you just ask?” Phillips explained, but then turned the conversation to Coulson himself, read him a chapter of C.S. Lewis’ Mere Christianity, a few of his favourite Psalms and then offered to pray for him. Cutting a moving and powerful story short, Coulson came to put his trust in Jesus, he astonished people by confessing his role in the Watergate Scandal and went to prison. After his release he bore great fruit becoming a great Christian speaker and leading an organisation Prison Fellowship International. In human terms, fewer people would have seemed less likely to have become a Christian than Coulson. Time magazine wrote “of all the Watergate cast, few had a reputation for being tougher, wilier, nastier or more tenaciously loyal to Richard Nixon…”

Phillips and Coulson both presented as tough men who had everything whilst they were experiencing deep emptiness. What if one of your friends or family is in that place at the moment? What if they don’t even realise that there is a spiritual answer to their problem? What if you were to show them the love that Phillips showed to Coulson, if you were to tell them your story and to invite them to join you on the Christianity Explored course starting on Zoom at 8pm on Monday 6th July? What if they were to come, to discover who Jesus is and why he came, and to accept him in faith?

Many of us feel burdened by the prospect of telling other people about Jesus or inviting them to something – it gives rise to feelings of fear and often guilt. If that is you, why not start by bringing those feelings to God and ask for his help and for opportunities? Converting people is, after all, his work and not yours. Our role is to live out the gospel and to share the good news when he provides us with the opportunities. Phillips took the opportunity God gave him and he not only brought glory to God but gained the eternal gratitude of a friend.

We have put together a one minute film which you might send to a friend, perhaps with a simple question “What do you make of this?” or as an invitation to Christianity Explored.

For more details about Christianity Explored contact ian.miller@stmarysmaidenhead.org.

Church Family Questionnaire

To have a fuller picture of how the St Mary’s church family are coping while we cannot meet in person, and of how well people are engaging with our online services, we have put together an anonymous questionnaire. You will have seen the link to this in our weekly email and we would like to thank all those who have replied so far. It would be great to have responses from as many people in the church family as possible. So if you have not yet had the chance to fill in the questionnaire please do so now, it will only take you a few minutes and we would really value seeing your responses and comments. 

Explorers At Home (Kate Wheatley / James Howick)

The end of May marks my favourite week of the year when many of the Explorers (children in year 5 and 6 at school) come with me to the Isle of Wight on Explorers Abroad. For obvious reasons this wasn’t able to happen this year so a few of them have written to tell me what they were doing instead and what they missed about not going back this year.



''I really miss Explorers Abroad, I miss all the excellent activities and the bright sunshine!'' Lucas



"I have missed the campfire and the swimming pool this week. Also spending time with my group and having all of the challenges." Hannah



Lockdown really has meant that some of the children have been climbing the walls - thanks Tom!

This time last year I was on the Isle of Wight in warm sunshine at the beach building a sandcastle in the shape of a battenburg cake. I was on Explorers Abroad with my friends.  Explorers Abroad is when children from Years 5 and 6 go away to the Isle of Wight with Kate and other helpers for 5 days of fun, games and learning about Jesus.  Some days we went to the beach, other days we spent playing laser tag, jumping in the swimming pool or doing a photo challenge around the town.  We visited the lifeboat station and saw the lifeboat go out - it was amazing, and I'd never expected to see that! We learnt all about Jesus based on meals he'd had with his disciples and friends. I really loved the challenges each night (making a team banner, learning to wiggle my ears) and the before-bed watching 'Mr Bean' with cake and hot chocolate - that was so good!

This half term, I was meant to be going again but I've been staying home, staying alert and protecting the NHS!  It's been hard not being able to be with my friends more than one at a time and not being able to be together.  I'm sad that we couldn't go to the Isle of Wight and visit the Needles by boat which I was really looking forward to. But I have been doing fun stuff at home instead.  I went to London and saw one of my best friends (from a distance of 2 metres) and did a treasure trail round Kensington Gardens and Hyde Park (15,027 steps!) We've been exploring the countryside round Maidenhead. Today, for the first ever time I swam in the Thames at Shiplake - it was freezing! I'm reading lots and we've had BBQs and played games.

I hope that the lockdown lifts in time for the summer holidays. If you are in Year 5 or Year 6 next year - I would really recommend going on Explorers Abroad.  It's so much fun! - Cecilia



Emily - practising her archery skills ready for next year.



Henri getting ready for all the woodland activities next year.

Explorers Abroad 2019 is now history but an experience I was hoping to repeat this week! Totally gutted that it had to be cancelled! I am missing singing silly songs and rhymes on the minibus and eating a delicious lunch (my mum gave me loads of extra treats!) on the ferry. Instead of playing water polo, hanging out with friends, making new friends, chatting in my room, watching and performing in the talent show, playing laser tag, competing with my team in the challenges, climbing up inside the lighthouse, eating lots of cake in the evenings while watching Mr Bean, I am in lockdown at home! I was looking forward to hopefully doing another scavenger hunt, going to the beach, learning about God and doing bible studies and all the other fun things, I know, would have been in store for us all this week. It’s such a shame we couldn’t go this year. I have just been playing ‘Pie Face’ with my family! - Thea.



Ellie did a 22 mile cycle ride to Maidenhead and back and saw Cecilia, as well as other cycle rides and long walks.



Elizabeth misses the Isle of Wight swimming pool and the laser tag. But she has learnt to boat build over the week instead.

Singing Together 'In Christ Alone' (Tom Brewster)

For our service on Sunday 28th June we would love to have as many members of the congregation as possible take part in the singing of the final hymn, ’In Christ Alone’.

In order to do this, you need to record yourself singing to a pre-recorded piano accompaniment. I will mix together all these recordings to produce the final soundtrack to be used on the 28th June, to which you may again sing along!

There are many ways to do this, but this instruction video from our Easter recording demonstrates a few easy methods which do not require any special software beyond what is installed on an iPhone/iPad, Mac or PC desktop or laptop computer. The instructions below may also help.

General tips:

  1. Ensure you listen to the accompaniment with headphones so only your voice is recorded.
  2. If you have an external microphone for your computer or phone, please use it.
  3. If you happen to have the specialist software/equipment/expertise to do this more professionally, please use it. (Lossless audio formats of at least 44.1kHz/16bit are preferred, but don’t worry if not.)
  4. Individual voices can be more successfully mixed than group recordings, but if you prefer to sing together with other members of your family you may do so as long as you can all hear the accompaniment, and you are all near the microphone.
  5. Sing with joy to the Lord and don’t be coy! The more entries the better it will sound.

Instructions for macOS:

  1. Download the accompaniment from Soundcloud here and open it in QuickTime player.
  2. In QuickTime, start a new audio recording (File > New Audio Recording) to record yourself singing, then sing along as you play back the accompaniment video.
  3. At the end, stop the recording, save it, and share it with me via WhatsApp (if you have the desktop app), a link to OneDrive/Dropbox or use a transfer service like wetransfer.com to send it.

Instructions for Windows 10 (earlier versions may require some modification):

  1. Download the accompaniment from Soundcloud here and open it.
  2. Open the Voice Recorder app (search for it in the search bar if you can’t find it) and use that to record yourself singing as you play back the accompaniment video.
  3. At the end, stop the recording, and you’ll find the file saved in Documents > Sound Recordings.
  4. At the end, stop the recording, save it, and share it with me via WhatsApp (if you have the desktop app), a link to OneDrive/Dropbox or use a transfer service like wetransfer.com to send it.

Instructions for recording on a phone:

  1. You can use the Voice Memos app on an iPhone/iPad to record your voice. (A number of different apps are available on Android phones which do the same thing.) You may need to use a different device to play the accompaniment video as many phones will not simultaneously play a video and record a voice memo.
  2. Please avoid using WhatsApp’s built in voice recorder. It is very low quality and won’t deliver the goods.
  3. Use WhatsApp or email to share the recording with me.

My contact details for sharing can be found from the church website people search, and please do not hesitate to email or message me on WhatsApp with any questions.

Please send all entries no later than noon on Thursday 25th June.

Thank you. I look forward to hearing you all sing!

Tom Brewster

Sunday School Online (Kate Wheatley)

We are thrilled to be able to offer Sunday School Online each week as a resource for the children to continue to learn about Jesus during this time of lockdown.

Each week we produce a 20-minute session, where we look at the theme “We need Jesus because..” This is a little like the sessions the children would have had at church, with a game, teaching, song, and craft.

We are so grateful to our friends at Faith in Kids for their provision of a video telling the Bible passage each week.

Here are some examples of the crafts that we have made at home during the sessions. Can you work out which story we were teaching about Jesus?

What you have said about Sunday School Online:

“I just wanted to feedback how brilliant the Sunday school online broadcasts have been! They’re really engaging. Thanks to everyone involved for making such an effort to keep going in these strange times.”

“We thought it was great! We all enjoyed the story about the wise man building his house on the rocks. It flowed well and was just long enough. It also added some valuable structure to the day as we then went on a rock hunt walk afterwards to find and paint our rocks with houses.”

“Children’s online service was really, really good. For the first time, other than in songs, our son engaged actively in the online service – answering questions as if he were in the room with Kate.”

Why not give it a try if you haven’t yet! We would love to have you join with us as each week we learn more about why we need Jesus in our lives.

Sunday School Online is available on the church website under Resources for Families from 8am every Sunday.

Teenagers and Lockdown (Melinda Stylo)

Teenagers are fascinating. As a secondary school teacher, I loved watching them change from being big kids in year 7 to adults in year 13. To see them begin to think for themselves, challenge ideas and boundaries, and to observe how friends become stronger influences with regards to confidence, opinions, identity and even beliefs, has always been exciting to me. I have lost count of the number of conversations I’ve had with concerned parents, assuring them that it is normal that their teenagers want to spend so much time with their friends and so little time with their families.

Well, life is not normal right now. I live with an easy-going, quietly self-confident teen, and yet this lockdown seems to have affected her more than the rest of us. Physical contact with her friends is restricted and she is confined to spending an unnatural amount of time at home with her boring old family. In conversations with other parents, a common comment has been that their teenagers have struggled the most. I asked a few teens what their main frustrations were and was touched and humbled by some of their answers:

‘I’m worried that my friends will be different when I see them again.’

‘I hesitate when my mum asks me to go to the corner shop. I’m worried I’m going to make an old person ill.’

‘Will little kids think it is normal not to visit their grandparents?’ (The context of this one was a concern that young children won’t think it’s important to regularly visit grandparents.)

There was even a discussion about how the popular kids are coping, especially those whose self-confidence is based on the attention they get from being cool.

And they are missing their friends. We’re all missing our friends, but they are really missing their friends. In our house this has resulted in stroppiness, sulking and hibernation (not exclusive to the teenager, let me add). As parents, it’s not our job to try to replace their friends or remove all their frustrations, but there are things we can do. Genesis 3 is a tough read, but I have verse 9 highlighted in yellow in my bible (yellow is my favourite colour). Adam and Eve have just eaten from the only tree they were not allowed to eat from. Then they hear God walking in the garden and they hide from him. Verse 9 reads: ‘But the Lord God called to the man, “Where are you?” ’ God the Father was looking for Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden. He wanted to spend time with them. Maybe we should follow his example and seek to spend deliberate time with our teens, even when they try to avoid us. They’re not going far for a little while yet.

Also in the Old Testament, Deuteronomy 6:5-7 says: ‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.’ In the New Testament, Jesus makes it clear that this is the most important command and right now we have so many opportunities to impress this on the teenagers in our families – while we are sitting at home with them, taking our daily exercise with them, hugging them goodnight and dragging them out of bed in the morning. The way you impress this on your teens will depend on your family situation and where your teenagers are in relation to their faith. If they are resistant it may simply be a case of you doing your Bible reading in the same room as them, modelling how you are trying to love God. Talking to other Christian parents of teens can help with ideas and encouragement.

In the New Testament, the author of Hebrews encourages his readers with this: ‘And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching.’ This is true for teenagers too, but as parents we may need to take the initiative in helping them keep this up. It is so important that some of those friends that become ever more influential are Christians too. For those in years 7-9, there is a regular Zoom meeting at 4pm on Fridays with a quick Bible study and a game, and the various Growth Groups for years 10-13 are continuing on Zoom too. Contact for more information.

Finally, pray. Pray for them, pray for their friends, pray for your relationship with them and pray for their relationship with Jesus. And know that we are praying for you too.

George Floyd and Racism (Will Stileman)

I will proclaim the name of the LORD.
Oh, praise the greatness of our God!
He is the Rock, his works are perfect,
and all his ways are just.
A faithful God who does no wrong,
upright and just is he. (Deuteronomy 32:3-4)

The horrific murder of George Floyd whilst in police custody has sparked not only days of protests and rioting in the US, it has also led to protests in the UK.

Having watched the New York Times report of George Floyd’s death on YouTube and having followed some of the media reports in recent days, I thought it would be good to share some thoughts I have had with my brothers and sisters at St Mary’s.

My good friend and fellow pastor, Richard Coekin, has written a brilliant and helpful blog in response to the death of George Floyd. Do please read it here, I totally share Richard’s sentiments, and I don’t intend to regurgitate them.

The issue of racism that George Floyd’s murder has brought to the surface needs addressing because it is alive and kicking in Maidenhead, and affects all of us.

Just this morning I was speaking to a member of St Mary’s about his reaction to George Floyd’s death. He himself has suffered racism growing up in the UK and one of his children experienced overt racism whilst at school earlier this year. We cannot bury our heads in the sand, thinking “this isn’t a problem with which I need to engage.”

Racism is a great evil because it is a pernicious lie fuelled by fear and self-interest. How can any of us treat other people whom God made in his image and for whom Christ died as somehow inferior? When God is committed to having a multinational, multiracial community living with him in the New Creation, how can we be content to have only friends from the same ethnic and socio-economic backgrounds as ourselves?

I am thrilled that over the last eighteen years St Mary’s has become more racially diverse, yet I am also acutely aware that our staff team is currently exclusively white.

In light of all this can I urge us all to reflect on the evils of racism and to question whether we carry any unconscious, racial biases. One of the ways to do this is to talk to our brothers and sisters at St Mary’s from a BAME (Black, Asian and Minority Ethnic) background about any experiences they have had of racism and how they cope with it. Can I also suggest that those of us with children talk about what happened to George Floyd. I am sure that many of them have heard about it and it is good for them to see how the Christian message directly challenges the evil of racism. Above all let us be praying that the God of justice will give us all a greater love for his justice and truth.

Taking Stock and Planning Ahead (Will Stileman)

It has been over two months since we have been doing church in lockdown. It has involved a huge amount of adjustment from all of us. A few of us may be thriving in this situation but many of us, including the vicar, have been finding it hard.

However, as brothers and sisters in Christ, we keep pointing each other to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ. He is in sovereign control of this universe and history. In Jesus, God has demonstrated his incomparable love for us, and he has proved his faithfulness to his promises. Because of Jesus, God will never leave us or forsake us.

As a staff team, we have been reviewing our church’s ministry since lockdown and we would love constructive criticism and feedback on what is being provided. Some of the questions we have been reflecting on are as follows:

  • How can we make our online services more relational?
  • How engaged are people with what we are currently doing?
  • How can we better support those who are struggling?
  • How can we better support those who seem to be drifting away from church?

To help answer these and other questions we will be sending out a questionnaire with the weekly email in the next couple of weeks. It will help us enormously if you could spare 10 minutes to fill it in.

Another matter we are giving thought to is what we will be able to provide when lockdown measures begin to ease. All the evidence shows that lockdown measures will be in place for many months and that there will only be a gradual easing of them. Please pray that the staff team and the PCC would have wisdom on this.

Every summer there are changes to the staff team and this year is no exception. Charlotte Faulkner, who has been a junior ministry trainee this past year, will be heading off to university at the end of August. James Howick, who joined our youth minister in training scheme last September has decided not to continue for a second year and will return to his roots in West Sussex. We are so grateful for all that Charlotte and James have been contributing to the life of St Mary’s these last 9 months. We are grateful that we will enjoy their continued support for a further two months in James’ case and three in Charlotte’s.

They will leave quite a gap, but at the end of August Nick McDonald will be joining us as a children’s minister in training working alongside Kate Wheatley.

Nick is a qualified primary school teacher. He is also Angie and Neil McDonald’s eldest son, so he knows St Mary’s quite well!

These last few weeks I have been reading and meditating on Psalm 90. It is worthy of careful study. I have been making the final verses into a personal prayer for the staff team and for the whole church family:

Relent, O LORD! How long will it be?

Have compassion on your servants.

Satisfy us in the morning with your unfailing love,

that we may sing for joy and be glad all our days.

Make us glad for as many days as you have afflicted us,

for as many years as we have seen trouble.

May your deeds be shown to your servants,

your splendour to their children.

May the favour of the Lord our God rest on us;

establish the work of our hands for us –

yes, establish the work of our hands.

With love and best wishes,

Will

Parenting Matters 2 (Sally Jennings)

Over 60 St Mary’s members met on Monday evening via Zoom (with the added bonus that nobody needed a babysitter) for the second instalment of “Parenting Matters” led by Mel Lacy, and this time the topic was: How do we raise our children for Christ in a confusing age?

Mel works for the charity Growing Young Disciples, whose aim is to train, equip and resource those working with children in churches. For the past 11 years she has also been Director of Youth and Children’s Training at Oak Hill College in London.

Her previous session back in January explored how we can help our children develop robust identities, through recognising that they are made in the image and likeness of God. This session considered how we can help our children relate to others and relate to a world that is becoming increasingly confusing and hostile to the gospel.

Mel made the point that our children are growing up within a postmodern worldview that teaches that there is no over-arching truth, but instead allows people to create their own truth systems: ‘my truth is what I say’. It is hard therefore for children to engage evangelistically if they feel they cannot question anyone else’s beliefs. Breakout groups enabled deeper discussion of these issues and we explored the pressures that our children may face as they grow up as Christians.

We were challenged, whatever the age of the children in our care, to model right attitudes and behaviour to them – they copy our good habits as well as our bad ones! She used Jesus’ example in Matthew 9:35 to encourage us, and our children, to have a heart of compassion for the lost, and for those who are different from us. She spoke of the importance of balancing a robust belief with a compassionate heart for others. Practical suggestions included praying with our children for our neighbours, for their school friends and for others we meet. We were asked to consider how, as a family, we interact and spend time with people who are different from us - do we have a heart of criticism and complaint, or a heart of compassion like Jesus?

Finally, our prayer for our children should be that they grow up compassionate rather than judgmental, gracious rather than critical, and other-centred rather than self-centred.

The talk was recorded and is available to listen to. Please sign in to the website to listen here.

Save the date - the third session of Parenting Matters with Mel Lacy on raising kids to be discerning will be on 28th September 2020.

Mel Lacy’s book recommendations:

  • The Gospel Comes With A House Key by Rosaria Butterfield
  • Questioning Evangelism by Randy Newman

Update from David and Naomi Lower

Dear Maidenhead friends,

Warm greetings to you from the sunshine coast of Essex!

Maidenhead was our first home as a married couple from 2003 to 2008, and St Mary’s was our church for that time. It was Will who helped to persuade David to explore becoming a vicar and after jumping through the Church of England hoops we changed career and moved to Oxford for two years at theological college.

From Oxford we moved to Leicestershire for David to complete his curacy in the United Benefice of Sileby, Cossington and Seagrave, three villages between Leicester and Loughborough. It was a happy time and good to be doing gospel ministry. We were trained by a great incumbent, supported by a kind church family and had opportunities to learn and experience all aspects of ordinary parish ministry. Kezia (now 13) was able to attend the village primary school across the road and two years later Anna (11) followed on. It was in Leicester that Jonathan (9) was born and we grew to enjoy watching the Leicester Tigers.

In 2014 we moved from Leicestershire - nearly the furthest place from the sea - to the road parallel to the coast in the lovely and highly underrated seaside town of Clacton-on-Sea. We have been here for coming up to six years running a small church of about 80 adults and 15 children.

When we arrived our three children, then four when Zachary (5) was born, were the only young people in the church. There was no children’s work on a Sunday or midweek, no outreach, little contact with the local schools, a messy service pattern and many other issues to resolve... there was however, a lot of potential. Six years on, despite discouragements along the way, we now have a weekly toddler group, an after school club, youth group and Sunday club, lunch club and monthly all-age services with food prepared in our new kitchen. The service pattern has changed, the website relaunched, the schools now visit at Easter, Christmas, Harvest and for their annual leavers’ assembly. Most importantly the word of God has been preached. We now employ a part time youth and children’s worker. It has been hard work and lonely at times, but the sun shines a lot, the beach is on the door step and God has provided all we have needed, especially strength and patience. Whilst our Sunday attendance is smaller than we would like, we do have connections in the community and many opportunities to share the gospel.

Since March we have adapted our services. Each week an audio service is produced for the website and we burn 20 CDs for people who have no internet access. Our youth and children’s work has gone online in the form of weekly videos. Our greatest lockdown encouragement has been using Zoom for a new weekly Bible study group and virtual coffee after church at home on a Sunday. We have been building up a large fringe of people over the years – please pray that they all bounce back when normal life resumes.

Grace in hard places (Will Stileman)

As the misery caused by this Coronavirus pandemic increases and we get more and more fed up and more and more desperate, we may find ourselves complaining to God and asking why he is allowing all this. And that is a good thing to do. As we have been seeing in Psalms 13, 42 and 43, God wants us to take our misery and complaints to him as we cry out to him in faith.

But not only does God encourage us to cry out “Why?” he also gives us some answers. For instance, when we looked at Genesis 3, we saw that all the sufferings and hardships we experience in this present age are ultimately a consequence of humanity’s sinful rebellion against God. This is a fallen, broken world under the judgement of God. This world with all its evil and suffering is not as God created it; nor is it as it will be when Christ returns to usher in the new creation.

But even in his judgments God acts out of love and grace. There is a section in the Old Testament book of Amos, where God declares to wayward Israel how he sent them calamity after calamity and after each section he declares, “…yet you have not returned to me.” God’s purpose in his judgements is never just to punish, he also longs to save. We see this supremely in the cross of Jesus, where God in his righteous and holy justice punishes sin; but Jesus bears it in our place so that we can enjoy God’s salvation.

So, this Coronavirus pandemic is one of the consequences of humanity’s sinfulness, but God in his sovereignty and love has allowed it to take place to awaken many people from their complacency so that they might seek his face in repentance and faith.

God is also using the pandemic to refine and purify his people. The apostles Peter, Paul and James all make that point in their letters. Hardship is never wasted in God’s economy. Trials expose our sins and weaknesses, they also grow our reliance on God and provide a rich training ground for us to develop the fruit of God’s Holy Spirit. God longs for us discover in our trials how he can change us and bless us.

‘Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance. Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.’ (James 1:2-4)

May God’s grace be at work in all of us in this crisis to make us more like Jesus.

St Mary's White Waltham Update (Dave Atallah)

Like all churches, adapting to life in lockdown has been complex, and with a small team, the workload in getting things together is high.

We give thanks to God for the people here, including the Crofts, who have made it possible to get content for services online, to have the right licences in place and from Easter we have had recorded services going public. We have also produced amazing sessions for children every week - if you have a look you might recognise some of the Maidenhead church family helping out. For a small church, we continue to punch way above our weight, and we pray that God will bring fruit and growth from this season.

At Easter, the heads of our two local schools gave the Bible readings at our All Age service and the service went out in both those schools’ communications. The result was that many more people heard the good news of Easter (and saw an egg land on my head) than would have done otherwise.

We have also produced a couple of assemblies, which have been picked up by the linked schools and we pray may be seen wider.

We give thanks that our congregation has adapted to new technology pretty quickly, we were able to hold a PCC meeting very early on, and parish business and other meetings have been able to continue. We work at keeping in touch with those for whom the technology is too difficult through a weekly delivery of hardcopies of church news.

We are currently running three courses. The “Identity Course” is an introduction course based in John’s gospel with other questions in parallel; in two sessions we have looked at the trinity, science and religion, other religions and God's rescue in Jesus. The “Bible Course” helps people to get to grips with the whole Bible story. We also have midweek discussions in the Romans passages from our current sermon series. Several people who have never done so before have been able to take part in these, which is very exciting.

Please pray for us as we seek to grow our connection to the parish. We have lost our distribution of the parish magazine, so we are thinking of how to connect with local people through Facebook and other means. It is exciting that twice as many people 'follow' our Facebook page as ever come to church, and we pray that it may become a hub of community news, and so an effective way of continuing to be salt and light in our parish.

Please pray for the heating project, which continues in planning. We nearly have the quotes we need to decide on a plan and go to tender and apply for the diocesan legalities. We will then need to raise the money. I am still hopeful we may not freeze this coming winter and also be able to open up the entrance area a bit to be more welcoming.

Please pray for continued understanding of others. We have been struck by how different people's experiences are right now. Some are lonely and struggle to find structure and connections in the day. Some, like my own family, are trying to cope with the work commitments of two parents, home schooling, and somehow staying sane. Our video group meetings include a regular slot ‘after church’ on Sundays which has been a vital lifeline in sharing some of the successes and challenges. We pray we continue to share the responsibility for each other in the strength that Jesus gives.

Update from Daniel and Camille Bauhahn

Dear St Mary’s,

It has been about a decade since we moved away from St Mary’s, venturing tentatively towards adulthood and away from the sunny south. Both Camille and I, accompanied by our respective families (or was it the other way around?) had arrived at St Mary’s a little over a decade earlier in the pre-Stileman era. Through those intervening years we experienced the highs and lows of integrating back into British culture, school, adolescence, friendships, family and all the other drama that accompanies life; all the while being loved and nourished by the Lord at St Mary’s.

Looking back, we can see how formative our time at St Mary’s was. We can see the ways in which the Lord used so many at St Mary’s through loving friendship and service, often in very ordinary ways, and through faithful Bible teaching, to bring us to where we are today as adults who love Jesus and enjoy him. It wasn’t always in the moment that the fruit of those conversations or observations or time in the Bible came to be, in fact it was often a number of years later. But it has been a joy to see the seeds that were planted during those years sprouting and bearing fruit.

Having left our families in Maidenhead, both Camille and I found ourselves in Manchester. There we pursued our studies with varying degrees of vigour and enthusiasm, coming out the other end with degrees. But the fruit of those years was not just the customary picture on the wall wearing a fancy hat and robes whilst holding a rolled-up certificate, (I seem to remember it was actually a plastic pipe because it was deemed more photogenic). We also grew in our faith and maturity as Christians, with our church family in Manchester at Holy Trinity Platt, building further on the foundations that had been set in the years before. I also managed somehow to convince Camille that marrying me, the kid from her childhood, was an entirely reasonable proposition. I needed a couple of pitches to get it started, but as they say, “if at first you don’t succeed,” anyway I digress.

Five years ago we moved to Nottingham, where I took up a job in an engineering consultancy firm for power stations and Camille continued her nursing practice.

Two kids later we find ourselves back in the south at Oak Hill College under lockdown, preparing for what the Lord has in store for us in the years to come. Recent weeks have looked somewhat different from when we started the academic year – all of my lectures are online and like much of the world “Zoom” has entered into my most-used words of the day vocabulary. It’s a strange season. For us each day seems to feel the same, and even though we’re at home most of the time – it’s tiring. It took me the whole of April to realise that an email I received on 1st April was actually an April Fool’s Day joke (turns out the onsite gym hasn’t been packed up into a van to make house calls … I did think that was a bit weird)! Camille is working a couple of days a week in the local ICU and during those days I step away from the screen and spend my time with Elsa (3) and Titus (1). However, it’s hard – sometimes it feels like preparing for the years ahead seems untenable – keeping on top of today is work enough. We would love to have greater freedom and be able to set our own agenda, yet it seems that the Lord wants to teach us patience, to be content in the present, to live within our means as they are right now (not what they might be relaxed to in the future) and to press on with the mundane and ordinary.

I’m sure for each of us, the Lord is planting seeds, aspects of that can sometimes hurt or be frustrating, but in their season the fruit of the harvest is a joy to behold and a cause for delight in the Lord. So entrusting ourselves and our circumstances to the Lord let’s keep going and ‘be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, and faithful in prayer’ (Romans 12:12).

With love,

Daniel, Camille, Elsa and Titus Bauhahn.

Relationships in Lockdown (Rachel Meynell)

This is an unprecedented time, with literally half the world’s population sharing the experience of virus-caused restrictions. Some of us are completely isolated, battling loneliness and its many resulting stresses. Others are confined with family or friends, with no possibility of having a break from one another.

It is with them in mind that I reread a favourite book, ‘Relationships: A Mess Worth Making’ by Lane and Tripp, and from which I was reminded of some especially helpful truths. (I have one caveat: I am not talking about abusive relationships, they require a very different approach, so if you find yourself in one, please do get help from church or another organisation).

The Bible assumes that relationships will be messy. Why else would it be full of commands for us to be patient and kind, and to love one another? All of these are vital when two or more sinners are seeking to get on together. We will all be sinned against and we will all sin against others. So the question is, as lockdown heightens tensions, how will we respond?

Here are some pointers to help us:

  • The Lord makes no mistakes

He has good reasons for giving us those we live and work with. This is true both in the closest relationships we have as well as with those we know less well, colleagues or people from our growth groups for example. God’s agenda in each one of us is to make us more like him, and relationships are a very effective school of holiness. The fact that God is doing a work in me is a huge encouragement when relationships are hard. Because in the midst of messy relationships, as our heart’s desires are exposed, we come to the end of ourselves and we reach out to God for help.

  • The Lord provides his resources

In his Word and by his Spirit, we have God’s resources for coping and growing. We are not alone as we seek to be godly when it is hard. He is with us and is helping us through. He sees when we bite back an angry word and show patience with our children. We are changed, and in God’s economy that is never wasted.

  • The Lord has forgiven us

As we all know, forgiveness is costly. It involves cancelling a debt and absorbing the cost of that debt ourselves - showing mercy, in other words. But in the gospel, as we remember all that Jesus has forgiven us for and the vastness of his mercy to us, he makes it possible for us to be merciful to others too. We are free to serve because he served us, free to love because he loved us first. What a wonderful Saviour we have.

  • The Lord understands our pain

Our God knows all about difficult and trying relationships. Just take one example: one of Jesus’s closest friends couldn’t stop himself sleeping and then pretended never to have met him, right at his moment of greatest need. He gets it. Jesus was utterly alone as he died on the cross. He knows first hand the loneliness of messy relationships, and he recognises our struggles.

It probably takes an act of the imagination to believe that things could be different in some of our relationships. Things might be very hard, but knowing that God is at work in us gives us hope. When enabled by his grace we respond with love to an angry loved one, we are working from the same script as our loving creator. He knows what is best and is indeed working for our good in all things, especially in those tricky relationships. Whatever is going on around us, and however others respond to us, God is at work in us and he is honoured when we seek to put him first, especially when it is humanly impossible.

Honesty - An Unexpected Benefit of Lockdown (Karen Martin)

We can no longer meet in person.

That statement of the obvious has repercussions in every single household. There are families who are battling the conflicting demands of home schooling and work. There are women whose careers have had equal priority with that of their husbands, but now find themselves confined to a domesticity they had previously rejected. There are husbands who find their jobs untenable with home working and who are now becoming teacher, cook and cleaner. There are those living alone and finding no break from their own company. Introverts who are tiring of the space created by living in our own heads for weeks on end. Extroverts who are sapped of energy with no-one else to provide stimulation and creativity. Couples whose love is being tested, confirmed and tested again when unadulterated by friendships outside the home. There are financial concerns, furloughs and uncertainty over future employment.

No one’s life is normal.

Some of us will be racked with concern, guilt and grief over our loved ones. Some of us are learning to relinquish control to the Saviour we have professed to trust for a long time.

But whatever our circumstances, there is a collectivity to our experiences. We are all home alone. We are all deprived of fellowship and daily contact with those outside our immediate household. And the result has been an outbreak of honesty. At Zoom coffee times we are meeting members of our own congregations who we have never spoken to before. We are sharing Covid-19 isolation stories. We are not chasing folk for rotas, or diary dates or simply making small talk with our friends.

Coronavirus has made us more real with one another. I have heard family stories that before have been held close to the chest. I have received a long email that picked up on some of my insecurities and pointed me back to the Lord. People have simply said “I am lonely.” Parents have admitted that life is very hard indeed. Teenagers have acknowledged their isolation when access to their friends is reduced to the technological.

Over Zoom coffee recently, someone suggested we should learn from this outbreak of honesty, this opportunity to expand our repertoire of Christian brothers and sisters. We bandied the idea that in the first quarter of an hour of coffee in-the-time-after-Covid-19 which surely must happen one day, we should be allocated a colour group and then join all others in that allocation to share family news, to pray, to discuss the teaching we have just heard. I can already feel the relief that everyone would have someone to chat to. No matter how long we have considered St Mary’s our home, negotiating coffee time is a pleasure that is laced with anxiety. So maybe we extend the symbol of the NHS rainbow and have a blue corner, a red one, a yellow one and a green. In essence, we have simulated breakout rooms.

But even if we can preserve the random connection of a breakout room, how do we preserve honesty once collectivity is gone? When normality resumes does I’m lonely become, I’m not good enough? Does my family life is difficult become I am failing as a wife, mother, husband, father?

For it is exactly because we are all under the same restrictions that there is suddenly freedom to express how we are all coping with it. Perhaps some families have been struggling for a while but have not been brave enough to voice it? Perhaps a marriage has been in difficulty for some weeks but the time for vulnerability has previously eluded us?

We all wear a mask in public, whether medical grade or not. We present a professional face at work, a mummy/daddy face to our children, a Christian face at church. When we arrived at St Mary’s over two decades ago, we thought everyone was sorted. Everyone knew Jesus as their absolute best pal and everyone had a hotline to God. I know now that that is not the case, but others are still fooled by our Sunday masks. Recently, a member of my own growth group expressed some relief that Bri and I were no more sorted than they were. We were contemplating moving away and were deeply confused as to the right path to take.

Being a Christian does not negate our humanity and our weakness – indeed, it should reveal it more honestly. If I cannot tell a fellow brother or sister in Christ that I am struggling, then what does that say about me? We should not fear judgement from one another, but expect compassion. We should allow each other to point us back in the direction of Jesus. How can we be accountable to one another when we hide the very weaknesses that the devil seeks to exploit?

I am not advocating that we should all confide our inner thoughts to everyone we meet. There is a fine line between pretence that all is fine and over-sharing. We have family to protect and confidences we should keep, but that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t all have a safe space in church to be ourselves, to let the mask slip.

Covid-19 has made us all braver. People I have never spoken to before have opened up their fears and frustrations during WhatsApp video messaging, Zoom and breakout rooms.

Whilst we can pray for each other and support one another, while maintaining social distance, how much more could we be to one another when that love can be expressed through a hug, a meal, a shared walk, a trip to the shops.

Let’s thank God for the honesty that has broken out amongst us. Let us pray for greater courage to share our lives, our joys and our fears with one another. After all, being united in Christ is surely stronger than being united in isolation.

An Unlikely Love (Karnie Sharp)

Joyce Pearson, who died on 11th April, was a longstanding and much loved member of the St Mary’s church family. As I look back at my family’s friendship with her I wonder, did Joyce choose us?

I was a newcomer to St Mary’s in 2011, the year before my baptism. I was a nervous, new child of God, attending two congregations every Sunday to satisfy my insatiable appetite for the word and to just be with other believers. And there she was, always sitting at the right hand side of the church - curious, welcoming, warm and inquisitive, with a twinkle in her eye and a wit and razor sharp mind to boot! She didn’t miss a thing - that was Joyce.

But we know that meetings are never accidental and God makes relationships possible, there’s always a reason. So let’s be clear, Joyce didn’t exclusively need us, we needed her too and so it came to be. This brief hello and reaching out on Joyce’s part melted into on-going Sunday lunches and Christmases and birthday parties too. Joyce was part of all of it. We have no elderly relatives nearby. Our family is a sustaining presence back home in South Africa, where we learned that our elders are wells from whom to draw wisdom, so allowing Joyce in was not unusual. However with Joyce we didn’t need to ask for advice, it was always offered in unprecedented amounts firmly but lovingly. We struck up an unlikely friendship, a friendship that grew into mutual love and respect.

Joyce’s son Alan said that the church was her family and we can vouch for that. She loved St Mary’s with an evident pride that followed her to our home every single Sunday, where she spoke with equal pride about her sons Mark, Michael, Alan and Andrew. She glowed each time she mentioned them collectively or individually. She took us with her down her memory lane. Sometimes stories remained the same and most were familiar and repetitive because she just needed someone to talk to. Joyce chose two favourite places in our home, almost labelled as hers as though she had earned it, and I suppose in many ways she had. One was the kitchen where she would perch, partial in the last few months to a glass of rosé, talking to her favourite person in the household, her “partner in crime” Derek, with whom she laughed and joked, reminding us always that she was more than the person I had met at church, she was family. The second place Joyce claimed was the one near the heater at the dining room table, where no one else was allowed to sit. That’s how comfortable she came to be in our home and our hearts.

We will miss her dearly and we would do this all over again, if we had to. The guilt of not seeing her enough in the last few weeks will stay with us for a long time. But the joy of knowing that Joyce has gone to glory and that we will see her again when Christ comes is bound to surpass any guilt or sadness that remains. We thank God that he made this unlikely union possible. You see, Joyce didn’t just choose us, we chose her too because of the love she gave.

Work Turned Upside Down (Richard Crane)

For many in our church family work is totally unrecognisable from a few months ago. Let me suggest some ways we might respond.

1. Pray for those who work
This is a period of intense pressure. Our brothers and sisters working in the NHS and social care are going through a severe test, which may indeed have long-lasting psychological effects. Other key workers including teachers and supermarket staff are also risking their health, working long hours under tough conditions. Those of us able to work from home may face other kinds of pressure, especially if home-schooling children is now on the agenda. Our relationships with colleagues are easily frayed when we are exhausted. And yet there are opportunities to be seized! Loving and sharing our Christian hope with beleaguered colleagues, listening to their struggles and offering to pray for them.

2. Support those who are out of work
An unprecedented number in our church family are reeling from the sudden shock of unemployment or being furloughed. The government has rightly put some emergency benefits in place, but individuals and families are still facing financial uncertainties that they never expected. The early Christians showed their faith in practice by generously supporting each other (Acts 4:32-37), and we should be no different. We can offer financial support through our individual friendships, or through our giving to St Mary’s to be dispensed via the Care Fund. Do contact Jon Drake or Rachel Meynell if you’d like more information about this. Let’s also continue to support the most needy in our local community, for example through the Maidenhead Food Bank or Christians Against Poverty.

3. Rethink our relationship with work
This pandemic has humbled us in so many ways. It has punctured the pride we took in qualifications and job promotions, which seem so trivial now. Supermarket shortages have reminded us that a salary doesn’t entitle us to daily bread; we depend on our Father in heaven. The cancellation of many church activities has shown us that our worth before God doesn’t lie in serving on rotas, but being hidden in Christ (Colossians 3:3). And we have seen in stark terms that work is painful and frustrating in a fallen world (Genesis 3:17). But we can take heart, because Jesus is in the business of restoring work! Even now, Christians can ’work with all our heart, as working for the Lord’ (Colossians 3:23). If we are unemployed, Jesus gives us strength to find contentment even in hard circumstances (Philippians 4). And we look forward to working for Jesus in a place without coronavirus. Revelation 22:3: ‘No longer will there be any curse. The throne of God and of the Lamb will be in the city, and his servants will serve him.’ Let’s not lose sight of this wonderful vision.

Annual Church Meeting (Fiona West)

Usually at this time of year members of the St Mary’s church family from across our five congregations get together for our Annual Church Meeting. At this meeting we have the chance to reflect on the past year. We take a look at the Annual Report together and we hear about how faithful our God has been to us in blessing our various ministries. We hear about his generous provision for us financially and we learn how those monies have been used to further gospel work. Will talks about plans for the coming year at St Mary’s.

Also at this meeting the formal matters of church business take place such as the election of Churchwardens (this happens each year) and the election of new PCC members (there is a turnover each year as people who are elected stand down after their term).

This year we had big plans for this meeting. ‘The St Mary’s Thanksgiving Celebration’ was due to take place on 23rd April, however due to the current restrictions on our movements the meeting has been postponed. We will reconvene it as soon as we can in the Autumn Term. Won’t it be great to be able to meet together then to celebrate what the Lord has done for us all!

Until then current PCC members will continue as they are. And our wardens Rae Binning and Damian Eustace will continue in post, and at that meeting they will both be standing again for another year.

Under pressure or with time on your hands? (Will Stileman)

People’s experience of the Coronavirus lockdown varies dramatically. Some of us are under huge pressure: those who are working on the front line in our hospitals, single parents with young children, households where both parents are working from home while also having to home school children and/or look out for elderly parents. While on the other hand, some of us face long days without many things to do.

One of the feedbacks we are getting is how harassed Christian parents are finding that they have neither the time nor the emotional energy to prepare Sunday school sessions for their children, or to actively teach their children about the things of God. If that is you, don’t beat yourselves up that you are finding it difficult. We are living through extraordinarily difficult times. However, can I encourage you to simply include the reading of a “Jesus story” in your daily night-time routine.

When our children were growing up, the evening routine used to be: supper, bath-time, story, Jesus story, prayer, kiss, lights out and hopefully sleep…. It didn’t always work out, but our kids knew the routine and by and large were happy to go along with it. When the children became older and didn’t want their parents to put them to bed, we encouraged them still to read the Bible at night for themselves. By including a short time of Christian devotions in the night-time routine, we always had an opportunity to talk about the things of God with our children and they with us. In the “Resources for Families” section on the St Mary’s website, Kate Wheatley has provided a host of good materials you can source for your children and yourselves.

However, if you are in the position of having long days without much stimulation other than the TV, can I encourage you to consider signing up for the first module of the Moore College Course that starts soon. The Introduction to the Bible provides an excellent Bible overview. Jon Drake and Richard Crane are leading this. It involves a one-hour a week tutorial, and an additional two to three hours personal reading a week.

There was a Christian chorus I learned as a child, which I found myself singing recently:

When the road is rough and steep,
Fix your eyes upon Jesus.
He alone has power to keep,
Fix your eyes upon Him.
Jesus is a faithful friend,
One on whom you can depend.
He is faithful to the end,
Fix your eyes upon Him.

The First Real Lives? (Ian Miller)

When was the first ever Real Lives event? Could it have taken place one afternoon in a town called Sychar in Samaria? If so, the speaker was a woman not only from a despised racial group but also with a difficult past - a startling number of failed marriages. The event followed an encounter at noon that day at a well (Jacob’s well) between this woman and Jesus, an encounter that changed her life. The encounter revealed that Jesus knew all about this woman’s life – right down to the details. It was staggering: not only was he, a Jew, prepared to speak to her but, as she said at the event: “he told me everything I’ve ever done” (John 4:39). This woman’s (real) life mattered to him in all its detail. He knew what was going on and he not only offered her living water after which she would never thirst again but he revealed to her that he was the Messiah (John 4:25-6).

Two thousand years later and Jesus is as much at work in people’s lives as he was in the life of that Samaritan woman. Like her, our speakers at our Real Lives week (25th February to 1st March) were prepared to share their encounters with Jesus and to speak of his work in their lives. It was wonderful to have speakers from such a variety of backgrounds, with such different life stories but all sharing one hope in Jesus Christ. I know that the St Mary’s church family is immensely grateful to them for being prepared to be interviewed during Real Lives week in front of large numbers of people.

After her conversation with Jesus, the Samaritan woman was so eager to tell others that she left her water jar at the well (John 4:28). Moved by their own encounters with Jesus, many in the St Mary’s church family invited their friends to Real Lives events so that they too could hear about Jesus. John tells us that some believed because of the Samaritan woman’s testimony. Others were prompted by what she said to go and hear Jesus and they concluded, “now we have heard for ourselves, and we know that this man really is the Saviour of the world” (John 4:42).

Let’s keep praying that, as a result of Real Lives, many of those who were invited would be people who come to know Jesus as “the Saviour of the world.”

Easter Changes Everything (Will Stileman)

The historical evidence for Jesus’ resurrection is so strong that nobody would question it, except for two things: first it is an unusual, supernatural event; and second, if you believe that it happened you have to change the way you live.

As a Christian believer, who is persuaded by the evidence, I have been reflecting this last week on how Jesus’ resurrection should be shaping the way I live during this crisis over Covid-19.

It should give me confidence. The resurrection declares Jesus as victor over the forces of sin, evil and death. Satan is a defeated enemy. There may be untreatable viruses, economic hardship, domestic abuse, pressurised work, social isolation and emotional distress, but none of those things will have the last word. It is Jesus who will have the last word on human history. When Jesus returns to claim his people for himself, all those evils will disappear. God “will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.” (Revelation 21:4) God’s people will be ushered into God’s presence in a renewed, perfect creation.

And while we wait for Christ’s return we are not abandoned by the risen Jesus. Not only is he seated at the right hand of God the Father interceding for us, but his Holy Spirit dwells in us and his power is at work within us to keep us and sustain us through any trials we may face.

I have it easier than most, but I am still finding the lockdown hard to cope with. But when I fill my thoughts with the reality of Jesus’ resurrection and the implications that flow from that, I find that my stress levels drop dramatically, and my emotional mood improves markedly.

It should keep me working. 1 Corinthians chapter 15 is taken up entirely with Jesus’ resurrection and the implications that flow from it. And the chapter ends with these words, “Therefore, my dear brothers and sisters, stand firm. Let nothing move you. Always give yourselves fully to the work of the Lord, because you know that your labour in the Lord is not in vain.” (v58)

As we stand firm on the facts of Jesus’ life, death and resurrection, and as we let these truths permeate our mind then we are energised to keep working for the Lord. For those with young children at home, giving ourselves fully to the work of the Lord involves continuing to look after them faithfully and making time to read Bible stories with our children and encouraging them to trust in the Lord. For those of us in households with older children, giving ourselves fully to the work of the Lord involves playing our part to keep family dynamics positive and good. In fact, for all of us, without exception, giving ourselves fully to the work of the Lord involves looking not only to our own interests but also to the interests of others.

No-one has any idea how long this lockdown is going to last, but if we are Christian people who believe in the resurrection of our Lord Jesus Christ, the fact that Christ is risen, should be affecting how we respond to this crisis.